Thinking man silhouette with thought colorful bubblesEliminating your unhelpful thoughts is the first action you can take to immediately gain a greater sense of self-esteem and faith in the future.

It removes the impurities from your mind so you can focus only on the ideas that will move you forward in life with greater confidence.

Let me explain…

I like to use the analogy of dieting to illustrate this strategy

If you’ve ever been on a diet before, you’re familiar with the formula for losing weight. You need to have a calorie deficit at the end of each day to ensure that you are burning more calories than you are taking in.

For most people, the easiest way to do this is to eliminate the junk from their daily eating habits and in general, replace that junk with lower calorie, more nutrient rich substitutions.

I remember, in my mid twenties, I was on a mission to get in the best shape of my life.

My plan was progressive in nature.

First I cut out all the crap from my weekly food consumption.

All of my terrible fast food binges, candy bar grabbing, soda drinking and pizza eating needed to get thrown out the window.

It required a LOT of discipline at first but after a little while, I began to form new habits.

Slowly over time, I began to replace my cravings for junk food with the mindset of eating with purpose.

I started to look at food as fuel to build the kind of body I had always admired in others.

And it wasn’t much later that I added healthy choices into each meal. I filled up on lean proteins, vegetables and healthy fats from fresh, store bought foods.

I then started putting all the healthy new input to work by exercising 3 days a weeks – then 5 and then ultimately every day in some form or another.

I was able to get down to 168 pounds, standing at 5’11” with just 9% body fat.

That was the end result – but it’s not the moral of this story.

The moral of this story is that I ELIMINATED the bad choices with the good choices and then built further upon that momentum by ADDING more positive influence into my overall health.

The mind can be tamed and strengthened in much the same way.

So often we indulge in negative thoughts.

We marinate our minds in pity, fear and feelings of self-doubt.

And then we wonder why we always feel depressed or get into “slumps” that feel so difficult to pull out of.

Just as the food you eat today affects your appearance tomorrow, the thoughts that you entertain at this moment will carry your mood over a much longer period of time.

That’s why it’s so important for you to recognize unhelpful thoughts.

Listen to that inner monologue and monitor your mind for negative affirmations.

When you engage in self talk with expressions like…

“I can’t do it”

“I’m always going to be alone”

“Im not good at making money”

“I’m just an unlucky person”

“I’m not very attractive”

… you’re creating a feeling based on an idea that is untrue.

You’re prolonging your discomfort by INDULGING in an unhelpful thought.

I’m telling you right now to stop.

Repeatedly saying to yourself that “I will always be alone” will NOT, I repeat NOT get you any closer to finding someone who you will be a fun, lifelong companion.

Pitying yourself for falling into a bad circumstance will NOT correct your course in life.

Feeling sad about your job will NOT improve your employment situation.

I’ve talked before about thinking and acting from a place of INSPIRATION verses DESPERATION.

When your thoughts are negative – they will not drive you closer to what you want.

They will not make you feel good about where you stand today.

Now, that said – it’s not all bad to have a negative thought.

You’re certainly ALLOWED to have negative thoughts.

After all, you’re a human – and crap happens and life can be upsetting at times.

What I’m telling you not to do is INDULGE in your negative thoughts.

What does that mean exactly?

Well, when you have a negative thought – or as I just called it earlier, an
unhelpful thought – you should take note.

Why are you feeling this way?

Do you need to make a change in your life?

Are you feeling ungrateful and focusing on the wrong thing?

Are you coming from a place of anxiety?

Is your perception skewed and maybe you’re not looking at the big picture?

Negativity can be born from any number of petty assumptions.

Whatever you are feeling in the moment – here’s what I want you to do…

Recognize the emotion you are experiencing and use it to fuel a positive change.

At that point, you need to work from a place of inspiration. Rather than running away
from you fear, take pride that you are taking action towards a greater you.

When all the clutter is cleared from your head, you will be able to put one foot in front of the other and take each step towards a positive outcome.

The only way to do that is to stop entertaining unhelpful thoughts. They may awaken a change within you – but they will not serve you to execute that change successfully.

The next little tidbit I’ll be sending your way will show you how to transform your negativity into a positive outlook. Although it’s not a simple as turning on a light switch, it can be accomplished in a very step-by-step kind of approach.

This is where you take your fear and doubt and turn it into hope and courage. And that is where self-esteem really blooms. That is where you create the self-fulfilling prophecy that leads to the best version of yourself.

So be sure to look out for that.

Kind Regards,
– Jason

P.S. If you’re having trouble even monitoring or recognizing your inner monologue, then this will help you take control and make your mindset work in your favor:



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